Archive for February, 2011
Looking for Friends Online at Free Internet Dating Services
Looking for friends online at free internet dating services is never been easier. Making more friends on net has been increasing rapidly in the last few years. Find friends online from friends dating sites is simple. All you have to do is to register on dating services. You get to know more single people on net. Love always start from a friendship. Looking for friends online is a good start for a long-term relationship. Free internet dating sites offer the means to find friends online at no cost. The service to find and make more friends will be done with out any effort on your part. You do not have to attend social services to make new friends. You can seek friends directly online from free internet dating websites. Finding friends online is convenient at the comfort of your computer. Present friends may become a permanent companion in your life. You should get on to online dating services and they do all the work for you. The process of making new friends does not cost you any money and most of the work will be done by the dating services themselves.
There are many good points on making friends online. You do not worry about face to face with someone. You do not feel bashful to talk to that person face to face. You are free to ask any question to find out more about that person. Meeting internet friends from free dating services have been popular these days. The main point is that friends can meet each other on net for just a few minutes and a few clicks. Online dating sites provide many options for friends to go through before making contacts with someone they like. After you have found the friendship you have had a good relationship with, you will plan to meet face to face. Understanding more about that friend, you need to ask as many as questions to find out more. After you have gone out with that friend for a few times, then you are planning to switch that one to your date. However, you need to understand more about that person before planning to tell that. Friends are the start and love will follow.
Free internet dating services are almost the same as friends dating sites. The good place to make new friends are from these dating services. Single people always make new friends online first. One of the good friendship will become a date in the near future. Friends dating sites bring all members to come together. There is a variety of options at online dating sites. People may seek for friendships first. These friendships may become their long-term relationships or even soul mates in the future. Therefore, joining free internet dating websites to find online friends is the first start. Looking for online friends is common in recent years. There are many friends dating sites that provide the free means to search for new friends. You need to take an action now by joining these totally free dating internet sites.
Jenny Rogers
Relationship Rescue
I’m not much of a boater but occasionally I like to go for a ride so I’ll rent a boat to take out on the lake. My boating training and experience is old and not very reliable, but it’s enough for me to enjoy myself and not put others in danger. I would never take out a boat that I couldn’t handle, or go out on a day that was rough and dangerous. I know my limitations and don’t want to risk either my life or the lives of others. Learning boating safety is essential for anyone who wants to take out a boat. Most people agree with this fact. It is easy for most people to understand why they need training in order to be safe. I hope you see where I’m going with this.
In order to get a marriage license one only needs three forms of identification. Even if you want a driver’s license there are more hoops to go through and more knowledge you must have about driving than you need to get married. For reasons that defy all logic getting married is a snap. Nobody has to know the first thing about what it takes to remain married in order to get married. It is insane. When people get into serious relationships, get married and have children they wonder why things aren’t working out and generally blame the other person for not having a happy marriage. Obviously it is critical to know what you are doing when you get married in order to have a good marriage.
Hey, that’s why I took it upon myself to study what marriage is and how to keep it happy. I was one of those people who got married without having any idea of what I was getting into. It wasn’t necessary to suffer, but it was inevitable. When I got married in 1975 the only good advice I got was to hang in there. For you there’s a whole lot more advice. I wrote Lessons For A Happy Marriage so you will have a manual that pretty much covers everything. And I’ll tell you what: you don’t have to settle for a mediocre marriage, you can have the most amazing marriage on the face of the Earth.
It’s like going boating. You can get out there not having any idea of what to do and as long as there are no waves you’ll probably be OK. But why take a chance like that? Once you know how things work it’s actually pretty easy and a lot of fun. Well marriage is a whole lot more fun than boating and not much more difficult to learn. In fact I think it’s actually easier, because once you hear what you need to know it makes perfect sense.
Let’s say you’re out in the middle of the lake and a storm is coming, your sails are torn and you need a rescue; hang on! The first thing you have to do is stop doing what got you into the jam you’re in. Chances are your spouse is mad at you, and you’re mad at your spouse. Don’t say anything mean. Don’t get back at them. Don’t be mad at them (yes you can control your mind). Don’t hurt their feelings. Don’t talk behind their back. Don’t dig up other stuff that they did to you in the past. Sit back down on the boat and recall all the love that you have felt in the past. Take a deep breath and remember the moment you fell in love. Relax your shoulders and picture them in the cutest way you remember. Smile a little… a little more. Now a big smile. Think about what a good person your spouse is and how much they deserve your love… OK, if something huge has happened that is very difficult to get past you need to read Lessons For A Happy Marriage and see if it’s covered. There are different kinds of relationships and my focus is on relationships between married couples, especially if there are children involved.
The idea that has taken root in our country that divorce does not hurt our children is preposterous. A marriage with children needs to be preserved and turned into a happy marriage. Other relationships really need to be analyzed to see if they are the right one for you. Some people came to me thinking they made a mistake when they got married because they felt they weren’t right for each other. But they had children. To me that was proof that they were right for each other, and I made it my business to show them how they could have an amazingly happy marriage. All they needed was the manual. If you are married with children the odds of your marriage completely changing to one that is phenomenally happy is nearly 100%. I have seen it so often. You are good people and you deserve the love and security that comes with a happy marriage. By all means stop which you are doing and say to the person you love, “I love you.”
Paul Friedman
http://www.articlesbase.com/marriage-articles/relationship-rescue-716916.html
Authentic Marketing (and Success) Require You to Look Within
Let’s face it: being self-employed, our businesses are fundamentally a reflection of every part of us. It’s not like working for a corporation where you don’t really control the outcome of the business unless you’re at the top. Who you and I “are” as people literally affects our businesses, every day, every minute, every second, with every breath.
Knowing that the “inner” is directly reflected in the “outer,” it’s especially so for those working solo. If there’s turmoil or disconnection within you as a person, it will be reflected in your business. If there’s purpose, acceptance, and alignment, things come to you without struggle.
For me personally, this past year has been a year of reflection and re-gearing for the next level of my business, almost an incubation phase. I’ve come to the realization that I needed to stop listening to so many OTHER people’s opinions of the next journey for my business and needed to look inside. And that included seeing what’s authentic, what my purpose is, and what I’m here to do with my clients. It’s been about healing the past GUNK that’s often stopped me and about strengthening WHO I am as a person, to then best fulfill what I’m here to do (and create an even more delicious business doing it).
Years ago, I thought that attracting clients was 100% about fancy marketing. I was wrong. The longer I am in business and the longer I work on my own spiritual and personal growth, the more I’ve gotten clear that attracting clients and having the business of your dreams is actually more a 3-slice pie. Sure, Marketing is one of those slices, and a very important one (hey, you’ve got to take ACTION to attract clients. No excuses).
But, the other two slices of the pie are not always talked about openly. Honestly, I haven’t always talked about them in public either, for fear of sounding a little too “Woo Woo”, if you know what I mean. Most times I would just hint at them, hoping people would read between the lines and get the point. However, I’d be cheating you if I didn’t tell you more about those two other slices to Client Attraction success, because they’re so important.
If marketing is one slice of the pie, Manifesting is another. And by manifesting, I mean the Law of Attraction, what you focus on with great feeling, you attract into your existence. At its most basic, here’s how it can be described: If you’re continually focusing on having a full practice of yummy clients who pay you what you’re worth, then you will start to attract that. If you’re focusing rather on the LACK of clients and you’re ticked off that people aren’t paying you what you’re worth, then you will attract that also (meaning, not having those clients or not making enough). Simple, yet very powerful.
But, the other slice of the pie that rarely gets airtime is the Personal Growth slice: Clearing out the cobwebs. I’m talking about not worrying what people think as much and being willing to look within to either heal or change the things about you that stop you from being the successful person you were meant to be. It’s about being authentic and taking a really hard look at all the baggage and the unfounded fears you’ve carried around since childhood (trust me, I have them too) and doing something about it.
So, what are we searching for when we go within?
Fears, limiting beliefs, negative emotions, and other unresolved stuff like shame and resentments. The reason it’s so important to look within is that if that stuff is still lingering in your system, you have a more difficult time “manifesting” what you say you want. The fears and other unresolved stuff get in the way of you attracting what you wish for and essentially negate and cancel your wishes. OUCH.
Now, I am not saying you have to run out and see a shrink. That hasn’t been the fastest path to growth for me personally. Rather, it’s about being honest with yourself, really honest, about who you are. And getting to KNOW who you are. Calling out your fears, putting them down on paper. It’s about writing down the things you say to yourself that stop you in your tracks. The more you get clear on this stuff, the more direct your impact on Client Attraction and having the business you really, really want.
It’s about being authentic with yourself, in life, in business, and in your marketing. The more authentic you are in your marketing, the more Client Attractive you become. Whether you call it Spiritual Marketing or Authentic Marketing, it’s super important, because if you don’t do anything about it, you’ll continue to get the same results you’re getting now. Now for some, that’s fine, but I’ll bet that you’re not willing to be living the exact same life 30 years from now, let alone 5 years from now. You probably want an even better situation and you want your wishes granted sooner than later.
Now, you could choose not to do anything about it and choose not to look inside. That’s what I did for a long time. I was really good at avoidance and denial. But what I’ve found happens if you ignore the “growth” slice is that you keep struggling on some levels, wondering why things you want aren’t coming to you faster. It can all seem to be an uphill battle and it can become really frustrating, making you want to throw in the towel and give up your business.
Well, when I started doing personal growth and becoming more authentic many years ago, the struggle started fading away and EASE started showing up. And the more I look at my long-ingrained fears and work on the other gunk that’s previously slowed the next level of success I’ve imagined, the more that success shows up for me.
It’s a process I continue ruthlessly, and help my clients with as well. Yeah, we talk about SERIOUS marketing, but this stuff too, because it all works. And it certainly pays off, in more ways than one. Sure, lots of clients and greater 1ncome are the payoffs, but you also get freedom, joy, and ease as a byproduct. That’s the real payday, if you ask me.
Your Assignment: Begin by making the decision to look within and be honest about what you find. If you resist it, it will persist. Make a list of the fears and limiting beliefs, the old junk you’ve avoided or that keeps coming up and clogging the pipeline to the success you so dearly want. Be willing to take the same no-excuses approach we talk about with Client Attraction Marketing, and apply it to this as well. It takes a little courage at first, but the more you do it, the easier it gets. I know you can do it and the results will astound you. I promise.
Fabienne Fredrickson
How to Discover Your New Life
Copyright (c) 2008 Dorothy Tannahill Moran
If you are past 40, a phenomenon will take place (if it hasn’t already) where you will wake up one day and wonder “What’s next?” This time of questioning has become fondly called a mid life crisis. I don’t think this mid life question needs to be a crisis, but as a society that loves to ignore the obvious, you will have a major shift in your mid life. How you choose to handle it, will determine if it turns into a crisis or not.
The reason why this “something” happens in your mid life has to do with a number of factors. One factor is the normal course of events that take place in a person’s life. You finished school, launched a career, married, had a family, bought a house and added to your financial burdens. You gained momentum along the way and received promotions, upgraded to a nicer home and maybe have the kids in college. These are the things our first major adult dreams are made of. When you more or less have them checked off your to-do list, the natural reaction is to wonder what the next big thing is in your life.
Another factor for this shift at mid life is that now we are the well seasoned life travelers that we are, we also shift from “having” to “being”. Having is mostly about having something in your life, like I mentioned above. The “being” part is now about what kind of person are you being or becoming. This concept is a bit trickier to grasp, so stay with me on this. Being is a verb in this instance. Being is about you BEING a more loving person and wanting more out of the relationships, or enjoying the work you are doing. It’s at a more visceral level within a person and not always so easy to identify. That’s how the crisis comes in. That’s when the guys hit on the young babes and the red sports cars and the women dye their hair. Clearly, not complete lists of reactions, but hopefully you get the idea. I will separate out the concept of how to identify what these signals are from how NOT to react.
These subtle, internal signals may come in several forms, but often times have a theme of “I want more out of my life” or “I need to find my purpose”. Also, don’t get hung up on the statements, I’m trying to portray a concept. What is taking place is an urge for something else, to pursue something bigger than yourself, more meaningful than what you’re doing right now. You might start experiencing a sense of dissatisfaction. At first, this sense may make you feel restless and unclear about your life on many levels. We don’t talk about these feelings or urges and certainly our society doesn’t talk openly about them, other than the mid life crisis jokes. The feelings come first, which sparks off a period of self examination. It is through this period of self examination where things go really well or you become a cliché’. The process you must and will go through isn’t a quick one, so you don’t rush it. It is the catalyst for change, so you must embrace it, in all its glorious discomfort. Use this process to do your personal research. Read books enroll in classes, travel, and jump into life. Talk to people who do things that interest you. This is a rediscovery of yourself and you won’t find it by watching TV.
There are some things to avoid during this period. As I said, you don’t want to turn into a cliché’. Many people take this period of discomfort as a signal that their relationships are bad. So, they dump the one they’re with and head off to the next thing that looks fun. They might make a big fun purchase like a car. These actions are heading you in the wrong direction potentially. They are replacing the “having” part of life, so they will never satisfy you, which could trigger even more desperate measures. Like it or not, you have to go through that internal self examination, if you don’t, you rarely move forward in an exciting, meaningful way. You could stay in a loop of meaningless actions followed by personal dissatisfaction. These people will ultimately calm down to a degree but on the other side of it they keep a cynical outlook or a general sense of dissatisfaction. You can avoid this; life is and can be even more exciting on the other side of this change.
Here are my pearls of wisdom on mid life change. Know that it will happen to you, whether at 41 or 59, it happens to us all at different times. Because of where you are in life, it can move you in directions that can exceed your wildest imagination. No, the younger crowd hasn’t cornered the market on excitement. We have much more freedom – fewer hang ups. Be patient with yourself and the process for change. Nothing great was accomplished over night. Learn to dream all over again.
Dorothy Tannahill Moran
There is Only One Person You Can Change or Improve in the Universe and That Person is You
CREATE A SUCCESFUL LIFE BY CHANGING YOUR PERSONALITY
‘ You are what you eat”‘ so the saying goes. Your physical body is made by what you eat. In the same way to achieve spiritual growth you need to feed your mind and spirit with the proper diet that is the material you read, what you listen to and what you believe in.
There is only one person you can change or improve in the universe and that person is you. God gave us the power of choice and you can choose to have a pleasant personality.
Do this small exercise: Close your eyes for at least a minute and visualize what kind of a person you would like to be. Then write down whatever emerges and practice it for today only.
Try to get an accurate picture in your mind, even if you consider it’s fulfillment in reality impossible. You must develop within you a new knowing that you have the capacity through your spiritual self to create any change that you can conceive of for yourself. To change your mentality, you have to first create space in your mind by getting rid of the self limiting beliefs that have been instilled in you and that you have entertained for long. Once you have gotten rid of this beliefs then you can relearn new ways of thinking. Remember as a man Thinketh so he is.
The beliefs you have to get rid of are summarised below :
1. I cannot change this is me and that’s the way I am instead have a ‘can do it attitude’: It took me some time to get rid of this habit. I would constantly tell my husband that is the way I am and it almost cost me my marriage. I was a hard nut to crack, but then I realised I wasn’t hurting him but myself. If you find yourself believing that you must always be the way you are, you are arguing with growth.
I also thought I was introvert and I was so fearful of almost everything including speaking to people in any gathering. I would come late and leave early to avoid contact with people, I didn’t even have friends except my sisters and maybe if there is an area in life where we would meet more often then you would be my friend. But after so much soul searching and reading books especially Dr Wayne Dyer and Steve Pavillana I changed my way of thinking and it bore fruits. I have many friends and I’m more courageous and I believe I add value to the people I meet.
You must create a knowing within that you have the power to create whatever kind of a person you want to become, in all areas of your life.
You were not borne a coward, shy or even an angry person but very empty and these characteristics developed as you met and socialised with family and friends. Being Kind, Generous, bold, Loving and other good virtues can be developed right now in your life. Take a day at a time. Try today to be different that is all that you wish to be and see the change coming in. All things are possible through Christ who give us strength.
2. The second self defeating belief you need to get rid of is ” It’s in my genes, I inherited it from…. its in our blood there is nothing I can do about it
Some time back at home, My only brother was very difficult and we wondered where he would have picked the habit of drinking and smoking from apart from his peers. But then we concluded that relatives from my dad’s side at that age got difficult and out of hand. We started giving examples of relatives we knew who were just like my brother and thought we had solved the problem by believing it was hereditary.
My advise on this issue is that let your inheritance be physical only and not spiritual. Do not blame it on the genes. The spirit has no limitation but our bodies do. You can have your mother eye’s, your father’s nose or your grandmother’s ears and let it stop at that.
When it comes to personal growth you can never inherit you choose to believe or to be like another.
In my country Kenya, there is a belief that there are three tribes that are short tempered, the Kisii’s(my tribe) The Kuria and Merus. You do not mess around with anyone from this three tribes or else you are dead meat. Well it’s a belief and so many have adopted this and needless to say they live in misery.
What is it that you have inherited that is limiting you. Get rid of it today!
Search within yourself and write down all the inherited habits in you and work towards eliminating them each day and see yourself grow to greater heights.
Do not forget that God is part of the change in you. Remember what Jesus said. ‘ If you obey my commandments My father and I will dwell in you, therefore be assured that Greater is he that is in you than he that is in the world.’
3. My family made me who I am today: So many people put blame on the way they were raised. I heard of a story of a son who became a thief and when he was finally caught for committing robbery with violence he was sentenced to death. He made a wish that he wanted to see his mother, his wish was granted and when his mother came, he told her he wanted to whisper something in her ears but instead he bit her so hard that the ear hang almost loose from the side. The reason he did this was because his mother did not teach him well or try to stop him whenever he did wrong.
Other people have grown up in poverty and due to the scarcity mind they become rough and even at times violent. Others who have grown in physical wealth have become arrogant and all this blame it on their upbringing.
It is time you realised that you will reap what you sow and not what your parents sowed in you. You cannot continue living a blame game and knowing that you have no role to play over your growth and change. As long as you are convinced that your family is responsible for the kind of person that you are today, you are trapped in that cycle.In as much as you cannot eliminate the influences that were very much your childhood, you and you alone decide whether they persist. If your family influences your behavior then you are not in control, they are controlling you and this could be disastrous to you because human beings are mortal beings and one day when they are gone you will have no one to look up to or blame for your attitude or behavior except yourself. We don’t want that time to come and that is why you have to take full charge of your life today and shake off any family influences that will destroy you.
4. My society, culture and times determines my personality. If you go by the waves and current trends, you are in for big trouble because you will never know who you are and define yourself as an individual in the society.
Who is your role mode, why are you living someone else life doing what they do, talking and walking like them and even dressing like them. You should take time from all these waves and trends to know who you are and your purpose in life otherwise time will go past very fast and before you know it you will be regretting abut everything.Everyone who has ever made a difference in the world has been an innovator. An innovator does not look at the cultural norms but looks within and allows his/her conscience and commitment to a purpose.Your thinking is yours, originating with you, the society in which you find yourself is simply the stage upon which you are acting out your miracles.
hesbon kerongo
How can I make my life better?
All my friends and family have deserted me within the past year. My girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me through a text message and moved back with her parents(a few states over). It’s like everyone was hired to be nice to me and then their contract ran out. All I have to live for is my job as a mechanic. So what would you do if you had my life?
1. move on. $hit happens
2. collect yourself, think positive and do something to make me happy.
3. start new. i am sure you learned lessons from the past
4. take a class, try new activity, hobby, make new friends.
5. hit the gym. helps the mood.
6. learn to cook. blast music
7. you’re lucky to have a job in the economy that pays and are independent (right?)
8. never too late to start.
9. make new friends..might lead to new gf after you get over the ex
10. try things that interest you. challenge yourself to a goal
I keep reading that these two birthdays are soul mates?
Nov 30 + Mar 24
How can they know just based on the days?
Do you agree?
What makes them soul mates?
@ Mimi: Nov 30th is Sagittarius not Scorpio.
Authentic Marketing (and Success) Require You to Look Within
Let’s face it: being self-employed, our businesses are fundamentally a reflection of every part of us. It’s not like working for a corporation where you don’t really control the outcome of the business unless you’re at the top. Who you and I “are” as people literally affects our businesses, every day, every minute, every second, with every breath.
Knowing that the “inner” is directly reflected in the “outer,” it’s especially so for those working solo. If there’s turmoil or disconnection within you as a person, it will be reflected in your business. If there’s purpose, acceptance, and alignment, things come to you without struggle.
For me personally, this past year has been a year of reflection and re-gearing for the next level of my business, almost an incubation phase. I’ve come to the realization that I needed to stop listening to so many OTHER people’s opinions of the next journey for my business and needed to look inside. And that included seeing what’s authentic, what my purpose is, and what I’m here to do with my clients. It’s been about healing the past GUNK that’s often stopped me and about strengthening WHO I am as a person, to then best fulfill what I’m here to do (and create an even more delicious business doing it).
Years ago, I thought that attracting clients was 100% about fancy marketing. I was wrong. The longer I am in business and the longer I work on my own spiritual and personal growth, the more I’ve gotten clear that attracting clients and having the business of your dreams is actually more a 3-slice pie. Sure, Marketing is one of those slices, and a very important one (hey, you’ve got to take ACTION to attract clients. No excuses).
But, the other two slices of the pie are not always talked about openly. Honestly, I haven’t always talked about them in public either, for fear of sounding a little too “Woo Woo”, if you know what I mean. Most times I would just hint at them, hoping people would read between the lines and get the point. However, I’d be cheating you if I didn’t tell you more about those two other slices to Client Attraction success, because they’re so important.
If marketing is one slice of the pie, Manifesting is another. And by manifesting, I mean the Law of Attraction, what you focus on with great feeling, you attract into your existence. At its most basic, here’s how it can be described: If you’re continually focusing on having a full practice of yummy clients who pay you what you’re worth, then you will start to attract that. If you’re focusing rather on the LACK of clients and you’re ticked off that people aren’t paying you what you’re worth, then you will attract that also (meaning, not having those clients or not making enough). Simple, yet very powerful.
But, the other slice of the pie that rarely gets airtime is the Personal Growth slice: Clearing out the cobwebs. I’m talking about not worrying what people think as much and being willing to look within to either heal or change the things about you that stop you from being the successful person you were meant to be. It’s about being authentic and taking a really hard look at all the baggage and the unfounded fears you’ve carried around since childhood (trust me, I have them too) and doing something about it.
So, what are we searching for when we go within?
Fears, limiting beliefs, negative emotions, and other unresolved stuff like shame and resentments. The reason it’s so important to look within is that if that stuff is still lingering in your system, you have a more difficult time “manifesting” what you say you want. The fears and other unresolved stuff get in the way of you attracting what you wish for and essentially negate and cancel your wishes. OUCH.
Now, I am not saying you have to run out and see a shrink. That hasn’t been the fastest path to growth for me personally. Rather, it’s about being honest with yourself, really honest, about who you are. And getting to KNOW who you are. Calling out your fears, putting them down on paper. It’s about writing down the things you say to yourself that stop you in your tracks. The more you get clear on this stuff, the more direct your impact on Client Attraction and having the business you really, really want.
It’s about being authentic with yourself, in life, in business, and in your marketing. The more authentic you are in your marketing, the more Client Attractive you become. Whether you call it Spiritual Marketing or Authentic Marketing, it’s super important, because if you don’t do anything about it, you’ll continue to get the same results you’re getting now. Now for some, that’s fine, but I’ll bet that you’re not willing to be living the exact same life 30 years from now, let alone 5 years from now. You probably want an even better situation and you want your wishes granted sooner than later.
Now, you could choose not to do anything about it and choose not to look inside. That’s what I did for a long time. I was really good at avoidance and denial. But what I’ve found happens if you ignore the “growth” slice is that you keep struggling on some levels, wondering why things you want aren’t coming to you faster. It can all seem to be an uphill battle and it can become really frustrating, making you want to throw in the towel and give up your business.
Well, when I started doing personal growth and becoming more authentic many years ago, the struggle started fading away and EASE started showing up. And the more I look at my long-ingrained fears and work on the other gunk that’s previously slowed the next level of success I’ve imagined, the more that success shows up for me.
It’s a process I continue ruthlessly, and help my clients with as well. Yeah, we talk about SERIOUS marketing, but this stuff too, because it all works. And it certainly pays off, in more ways than one. Sure, lots of clients and greater 1ncome are the payoffs, but you also get freedom, joy, and ease as a byproduct. That’s the real payday, if you ask me.
Your Assignment: Begin by making the decision to look within and be honest about what you find. If you resist it, it will persist. Make a list of the fears and limiting beliefs, the old junk you’ve avoided or that keeps coming up and clogging the pipeline to the success you so dearly want. Be willing to take the same no-excuses approach we talk about with Client Attraction Marketing, and apply it to this as well. It takes a little courage at first, but the more you do it, the easier it gets. I know you can do it and the results will astound you. I promise.
Fabienne Fredrickson
