Please read and give input: Where is my social life going? When will I settle down with a good looking woman?

I fear being alone for longer and starved of a girlfriend and friends?
SCENARIO / MY BACKGROUND :

I am a 31 year old living with my parents and younger brother as I have done all my life. I am strong a strong, single minded and at times, an opinionated person. I in life in fairness have never really friends that I have hung out with outside either/or football activities or school/college/university.

I’m not holding this as solely the factor for the reasons of my lonliness, but I’ve always respected my parents wishes/ground rules; never really was allowed to invite friends in to the house, wasn’t really allowed to hang out as I had to be in at 10 (this was when I was around 17-20). I have in fairness have had a sheltered life, I’ve never really been away or abroad.

I have relatives but not ones that I’m close to and of which I can hang out and stay at. This goes the same for friends as well.

Since 2005, I have been in and out of employment and went through patchy periods of depression as a result of this. I have about 5000 of personal debt that needs clearing and I don’t really have concrete savings for the rainy day where I can set up myself in terms of gettting a mortgage.

I’ve only just got back on my feet in terms of getting some temp employment. My contract ends the end of this month. That side of it however is fine and I am enjoying the work and obviously, the generous pay packets at the end of the month.

I do have my own car, quality food on the table, beer on tap, sky sports, the internet, a well-maintained house and a wonderful mum and dad so I do recognise the positives.

BUT:

In terms of securing a long term partner, I guess by my own doing blew my best chances in my university days. Having said that, as I am gettting older, this is not a lie, imaging or being big-headed but women when seeing me do fixate their eyes, longer than normal – good looking women/girls.

The problem is though, I rarely go out. I’m not incredibly a pubber or a clubber off my own back but when given the right company, I am truly the life and soul of the friend circle.

Facebook is about I know and I have looked up a few of my past contacts/friends and contemplated getting in touch and breaking the ice.

Not in normal circumstances but today, I am feeling rather down and depressed – I almost wanted to cry.

WHY:

I drove to my local supermarket to pick up a few bits and when I was driving off to home after finishing my shopping, in the car park, I saw one of my ex-friends.

I say ‘ex’ because in fairness, we havent really been in touch properly since 2005.

We became ‘friends’ through working at the same place (2 different organisations) and subsequently, throught football since 1997. Outside football and work though, we never really hung out apart from the odd staff do etc. He has always had a long-term girlfriend. He was lkiving at the time with her parents, but since 2006, he now has his own home and it seems (by checking facebook the other day, he also has a son).

We had a bit of a fall-out in 2005 as his life was going skyhigh (he was getting married) and I was rockbottom – unemployment. There’s also some history in terms of the fact that I was interested (back in 1999) in one of his sisters but things didn’t work out – she led me on, borrowed large sums of money off me (I was naive at 19.20) without any intention of paying me back and her brother, (the mate I’m talking about) helped to recover most of that debt. The brother and the sister I was interested in in fairness as far as I know never really saw eye-to-eye. Maybe there’s still some deep-down resentment, but he did invite me to his wedding in 2005.

The problem was, I was a mess, I needed work, desperately. I found some, but I had to start at the same time as his wedding weekend. He was prepared to book some sort of hotel (overnight stay) for me, he wanted me to wear a matching suit against his other peers as he also tried to arrange this at the time and needed money off me, but I was as I said, in my own world and had my own trials and tribulations of life to contend with.

He looked out for me in our younger day, for example, when we played football regularly in a amateur league. I was pretty small and slender and when players picked on me, he would come in to stick up for me as a mate would do.

Prior to me missing his wedding, we had a massive bust-up through text-messaging. One afternoon, a shed load of home truths was exchanged.

We did call a truce and he understood why I couldn’t attend his wedding. I have changed my mobile telephone number but in saying that, he knows where I live and has never been in touch with me.

I have never hung out with him and when I have seen him (on two occasions during these last 2 years), I have never really wanted to approach him. Mainly because I was unemployed and my pride got the better of me.

WHAT HAPPENED TODAY THAT ALMOST MADE ME CRY:

I’m sure he saw me
(even if he doesn’t formally know that I’m behind a certain red Ford Fiesta
I drove and bacially, the guy seemed very estranged towards me – almost as if to say "I don;t know you!".

This really hurt me. I know I missed his wedding in 2005 but I had a legitimate reason – I haven’t properly had a conversation with him since – not face-to-face anyway.

Thiis killed me in emotion today – I want to forget about this dude and want to move on – where do I go from here??

I thought ‘settling down into a happy life’ would come EASY … But NO WAY has this been the case – life has come with one hurdle after another with fairly brief respites inbetween when I have felt trult happy and content on my own

BUT part of being human and striving for THE BEST seems to mean overcoming many obstacles! … well it does for ME!

It may seem to us that other people have it easy and their perfect lives fell into their laps

I do feel some people ARE more fortunate than others – especially if they are born into a kind , loving , secure family enviroment – but then being TOO ‘wrapped up in cotton wool’ isn’t healthy either

I was practically kicked out into the big wide world at a young age – and have struggled ever since to find my own way – and am STILL struggling in my 40′s!

BUT – I STILL BELIEVE MY LIFE CAN GET BETTER and I can overcome all the obstacles I have to get over to find my true happiness … And when it DOES happen I will SOOOOOOOOOOOO appreciate it – coz only I KNOW the STRUGGLE it was to get there!!

( so you are not the only one struggling with life and relationships and your own happiness! … try meetup.com to get your social life kick started – and chin up!! )

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I need all the tests, quizzes labs, notes and lectures and etc!!!!!!!! exams !!!!!! please message me on facebook ! or by email mast_or@mai.ru

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There is this guy that I feel a total connection with. I found out that my Sun is conjunct his Saturn in Leo in the 12th house. Is this a karmic tie? I feel this deep connection with him and feel like something will happen shortly, but its so intense its scary.

My sun is also conjunct his sun/moon midpoint; his north node is right on my midheaven in Gemini; and his moon (Gemini) is trine my Pluto (Libra).

There are plenty more aspects where we link up, but wanted to keep it short.

Thanks for your help!

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what are the past lives and what is past live regression ?

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When most people think of past lives regression, they think of hypnosis. It’s a valuable tool used to understand the root problem of something in your life today. Some people find that they make the same mistakes over and over again or that they get into the same types of terrible relationships over and over again. They may find that they have fears and phobias for no apparent reason. A past lives regression can help with that.

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It’s like when you meet someone that you’ve met in the past life or done somethine you done in the past life. What is it called?

A delusion.

~Dr. B.~